What I Wish I Knew Then: One Old Mom’s Message to the New Generation
If I could sit across from you right now, I’d tell you this:
Take this time—before the chaos, before the fear, before the pressure—to educate yourself. Read, research, pray, and prepare your heart. Because one day, if not sooner than later, you will be confronted. And when that moment comes, you want to respond from a place of calm conviction—not emotion.
That shift in posture? It changed everything for me.
I learned it the hard way.
I fought to restore the health of one of my children after an injury I now deeply regret. It led me down a path of questioning, digging, unlearning, and rebuilding. And although that journey was hard, it was also empowering.
Many years ago, while visiting family in Texas, my youngest (not xx’ed) had a serious health scare. We ended up in an emergency room seeking care. What followed was shocking: I was yelled at, threatened, and ridiculed by two pediatricians simply because I had chosen a different path for my child’s care, still nursing her at 11 months old, not following a particular schedule. It was terrifying. They tried to fear-monger, override my parental rights, and push tests I knew weren’t necessary in that moment.
But I didn’t cave.
I asked intelligent questions. I calmly explained our position. I asked them to clarify how their proposed tests or treatments would actually help. I didn’t raise my voice. I didn’t let them see me rattle. I stayed in the driver’s seat. And by the time it was over, the nurses were quietly cheering me on.
HEAR THIS: Knowledge is power. Calm is influence. And confidence is contagious.
I had an excellent pediatrician at home—someone who respected me and our family's choices—but this was different. It opened my eyes to how rare that kind of support truly is.
When I first became a mom, I interviewed pediatricians. One in particular told me exactly what I’d “have to do” in order to join his practice. I looked him in the eye and reminded him that I was the one doing the hiring. He left angry. And needless to say, he didn’t get the job.
I went through four pediatricians before I found one who aligned with our values.
I didn’t do well visits. I didn’t follow a schedule. My oldest, now 25, saw her pediatrician twice: once to establish care, and once for a physical. My 19-year-old saw her three times—for injuries. My 18-year-old saw her three times for diagnostics—one of which resulted in a hospital stay as an infant. Out of the three, only one of my children ever received an antibiotic.
I raised them holistically. After that original injury, we never returned to that conventional path. I have spent the last 37 years studying natural health—first for myself, then for my children, and now to equip other moms who want to lead their families with wisdom, not fear.
And I didn’t stop there. I also homeschooled all three of my children through high school—as a single mom.
So don’t you ever let anyone tell you that you can’t do something. You can.
You are allowed to ask questions.
You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to choose differently.
You are allowed to carve your own path.
You are allowed to say no.
You are allowed to choose differently.
You are allowed to carve your own path.
And you are strong enough to stand your ground.
Keep learning. Keep leading. Don’t hand over your peace. Because when you’re calm and prepared, you’re unstoppable—and your child gets the strongest, wisest version of you.
And that is the greatest gift you can give them.
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